Tuesday, September 1, 2009
What do we want to be happy?
I just sat thinking today, I have my new car now but am I really really happy about it? I was so damn happy and on cloud nine when I got my first bicycle. We are really becoming so fast in life that all the good things and all the happiness that's there do not last more than a minute. I see around me the same thing goes with relationships. There are times when I used to feel maybe I need someone of my age (read "a girlfriend") to share my thoughts, to share my feelings and to fulfill my emotional needs, but everywhere around me people who have such privileges are either fighting with each other, or are unsatisfied emotionally because they increase their expectations from their counterpart without realizing that the counterpart may have expectations too. So easy to point finger at others but in reality, they themselves are the other side of the coin. Why are we so blind? Why are we unable to accept our mistakes and shortcomings? Until unless we realize how wrong we are, we won't be able to forgive ourselves and move on life. Something in me tells me this short-lived happiness and our inability to take life slowly and enjoy its small happiness is the reason behind it all. I will talk about a female friend of mine and a great guy friend. He is a nice, lovable guy, which she realized and she being good herself they were bound to get together, I knew it the moment I introduced them. It was all cool till the time we all were meeting in our groups. Then they started going out, let's call the guy A and the girl B. Now A proposed to B to which she promptly said yes to. They became close but happened next was unusual, every positive quality of A was now unbearable for B. she used to love him for being manly now she thinks he can't understand her (which means he can't think like a girl and be sissy). She used to love his stunts now she feels he is too embarrassing at public places. Things that made her laugh now irritate her. She admired his intelligence now she has her own self assumed thought that he thinks she is not smart enough. I would say, girl, you always knew he was smart that's what attracted you to him, then why suddenly this inferiority, he is not feeling inferior coz he is not as good looking as you so neither should you be insecure about his qualities. The reason for me to blog this is if someone with the similar problem comes and reads this maybe he/she still has time to understand its no one's faults but theirs and they should be able to keep and protect their relationships. Well the story goes on more.. the guy had to leave to the US for some of his work, and that's when the real irritation for me began. This B tried to find comfort in other people. She used to show them that she is emotionally weak and vulnerable and in reality, she was using them to get what she wanted. Is it fair for her to go and sleep with somebody else just because she has a few misunderstandings with this guy without breaking up with him? During her short stints, she realized that A is the right guy for her. Now that A is back she is again happily going around with him. Now, what am I supposed to do both are my friends. Should I keep my eyes closed about how she cheated on his back in spite of knowing everything or should I tell the truth though my friend is not asking me? I have a feeling that since my friend A never doubts her he would never inquire about her but I think she can never be true to him for the rest of his life. I have made up my mind, made up my mind to stand with what?s right and stand against what?s wrong in next 3 days I am going to let A know what B has done. A small warning for all such A?s leaving their B?s for some tours or work?.be very very careful. Women have deteriorated more than men in their moral values. They are becoming insatiable. You treat them well they want to be treated like hot babes. You treat them like hot babes they feel you treat them like a whore and don't love them. Wake up guys don?t be trapped either be ready for short-lived happiness's or CRY. Your life YOU DECIDE.
AHMEDABAD-JODHPUR Road Trip
Ahmedabad To Jodhpur By Road
The purpose of my writing this post is to provide an idea to people who are planning to travel from Ahmedabad to Jodhpur via road in car or on a bike. I travelled on my bike Yamaha R15.
Distance Travelled- 460 Kms.
Time Taken- 6 Hrs including a lunch break and a few Photography halts.
The Route. Red pins are the important Landmarks of the trip.
Route Taken ---Ahmedabad - Chandkheda - Mehsana Toll Highway - Mehsana - Palanpur - Abu Road - Pali-Jodhpur.
The roads right from Mehsana highway to Abu Road are really very good its a four lane highway, two lanes for each direction. The journey is a pleasure and can be taken very easily on bike or in car. My usual riding speed was 130-135 Kms/hr, though I would not recommend to ride at such speeds on bike. Just carry a little water nothing much needs to be carried as there are a lots of places where one can buy stuff on the way. If asked for my view I would say an overcast is the best weather to travel but if you are in car, it weather won't make much of a difference. The road after Abu Road is a two lane National Highway no more dividers. The road is ok. Ok does not mean bad but it is not as good as Mehsana to Abu Road one.
The distances and directions written on the way are very very clear so there is never a need to Ask for directions, however if you are carrying a GPS then nothing like it. Please be careful about the signs reading populated area ahead slow down, follow these signs they are really well placed and warn you well before U can make a mistake. Slow down wherever written accident prone zone because they really are and I experienced it myself that slowing down was necessary there.
It will take you no time to reach Sirohi, an average driver takes approximately 4 Hrs to reach Sirohi from Ahmedabad, where I would recommend to take a lunch break at Baba Ramdev Restaurant which is actually a Dhaba. This is a nice and hygienic place with some nice facilities. There is also a hotel with the same name where one can halt if too tired to carry on for the journey. From this dhaba it takes approximately 2 or 2 1/2 Hrs to reach Jodhpur.
Baba Ramdev Restaurant and Hotel Sirohi. 
Please Ask for directions here at the Dhaba as there is a turn to be taken for National Highway to Jodhpur.
On the way there are a few picturesque locations where you can take a halt for photography. There are a plenty of company operated filling stations on the way so one need not worry about fuel though its always recommended to have a safe quantity always in your tank when on a journey.
Above are a few of my halts. Hope this was Helpful. You can say thanks by posting comments. :) . Have Fun.
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Child Lost !!!!!
How many of us do really know .. What it means when the child in you is lost?
No one can know this better than me. Being a child till now (age of 24), being joyous and spreading a cheerful aura wherever i went, i never knew all this would change one day so suddenly that i would sit, cry and fight to get back that child in me but he wont come...he is lost with someone so special and loved in the family that it makes me think, is life really how we take it ? or is it that someone is actually controlling it from somewhere else. In times like this i feel if a person lives a healthy life, it is real luck for him, with so many new diseases coming up everyday, so many new reasons to die e.g a taste for adventure that leads to loving high speeds and risking everything for a minute of fun. For those who come out of it is fun, for those who won't its a nightmare may be not for them but for those who are left behind.
I have been pretty much adventurous myself I hardly find guys my age as adventurous as me I have always been ahead of times at least here around me, but then i think is it me who is doing all these stunts? Is it me who took that risk and came out to tell all about it? NO, is my answer. There are a few different ways to look at it. Though one may argue that one can not just sit
No one can know this better than me. Being a child till now (age of 24), being joyous and spreading a cheerful aura wherever i went, i never knew all this would change one day so suddenly that i would sit, cry and fight to get back that child in me but he wont come...he is lost with someone so special and loved in the family that it makes me think, is life really how we take it ? or is it that someone is actually controlling it from somewhere else. In times like this i feel if a person lives a healthy life, it is real luck for him, with so many new diseases coming up everyday, so many new reasons to die e.g a taste for adventure that leads to loving high speeds and risking everything for a minute of fun. For those who come out of it is fun, for those who won't its a nightmare may be not for them but for those who are left behind.
I have been pretty much adventurous myself I hardly find guys my age as adventurous as me I have always been ahead of times at least here around me, but then i think is it me who is doing all these stunts? Is it me who took that risk and came out to tell all about it? NO, is my answer. There are a few different ways to look at it. Though one may argue that one can not just sit
and do nothing about things but i would say one can just sit and not take unnecessary risks in life.
A rookie guy does a stunt for first time and comes out fine to talk about it, while a pro tries that same thing and meets with a horrible accident, isn't it something we all have heard one or the other time. A guy who doesn't know swimming falls in deep water like lake or pond and comes out simply by splashing his hands and legs randomly while a pro swimmer dies in a swimming pool what do you think is the reason? Doesn't it all make you wonder what if your life is not really yours? What if someone else is governing it? What if you think you control your life and say you break a jar to prove it no one can stop you yeah rite
but may be actually someone wanted you to do it and made you do it in this way so smartly that you keep thinking you are in control of yourself? What if whatever i said above was wrong?
Questions, questions and more questions but hardly any answers but yes at least we can stop taking risk with lives because life once lost can not be brought back. This is one irreparable loss, if a few people can follow this they can prevent a child in someone somewhere from getting lost..that child can continue to spread cheer and joy around..Save the child in you for good.
A rookie guy does a stunt for first time and comes out fine to talk about it, while a pro tries that same thing and meets with a horrible accident, isn't it something we all have heard one or the other time. A guy who doesn't know swimming falls in deep water like lake or pond and comes out simply by splashing his hands and legs randomly while a pro swimmer dies in a swimming pool what do you think is the reason? Doesn't it all make you wonder what if your life is not really yours? What if someone else is governing it? What if you think you control your life and say you break a jar to prove it no one can stop you yeah rite
but may be actually someone wanted you to do it and made you do it in this way so smartly that you keep thinking you are in control of yourself? What if whatever i said above was wrong? Questions, questions and more questions but hardly any answers but yes at least we can stop taking risk with lives because life once lost can not be brought back. This is one irreparable loss, if a few people can follow this they can prevent a child in someone somewhere from getting lost..that child can continue to spread cheer and joy around..Save the child in you for good.
Complex isn't it ?
Everything that begins has an end to it.. this is something we have grown up knowing, seeing and learning from what is around us, but when i start to think of it my mind sometimes stops being reasonable and brings me to a kind of junction between spirituality and science i would like to call it SPIRIENCE (SPIRItuality+sciENCE ). There is a notable reason for me to put spirituality before science in the new term i coined. This reminds me to quote Swami Vivekananda,
"Religion deals with the truths of the metaphysical world, just as chemistry and the other natural sciences deal with the truth of the physical world. The book one must read to learn chemistry is the book of (external) nature. The book from which to learn religion is your own mind and heart. The sage is often ignorant of physical science, because he reads the wrong book - the book within and the scientist is too often is ignorant of religion, because he, too, reads the wrong book - the book without".
Such an intelligent choice of words. This sometimes leads me to wonder is there really a science? i question science because the so called scientists (who study science) renounce spirituality, whereas spirituality always co existed with science. My feeble mind can only think of science as the laws of nature created by the supreme to keep us bound in some limits so that we can not create havoc in the most beautiful of his creations. Something similar to what happens to Neo in the Matrix, he was bound by laws which actually never existed but when he realizes himself he could do whatever he wanted. Matrix itself was a fancy rip-off of the holy Geeta (compilation of words spoken by Lord Krishna in the battlefield).The point is of self realization. Is it so that once you have realization you will know the begining of it all. The begining of time-the begining of god. What would it lead to?.. heaven or is it just a human imagination.
There are many studies trying to find a relation indirectly like a study that was carried out on more than 20,000 people and it was acertained that lonely, sad, socially less active and less loved people had comparatively shorter lifespan. Here comes my question isn't it that medical science tells us that logevity of life depends on genes, DNA and on cellular level, so how come these things in the study mentioned above ..reached the genes. To support my opinion i have one more question.
How do such human experiences as job satisfaction, happiness, and meditation get into the cells? There is a physiology of loving and caring, ranging from embarrassing facial blush to palpitations, sweating and stammering. Feelings of love generate physical events.It may seem a distant transition from being in love in one's teens to being a confidant or a supportive spouse later in life, but physiologic changes are involved on both ends of the spectrum. These changes are not trivial. They can make the difference between life and death. There are instances of people who really fought for their life and came out alive out of seemingly impossible situations which may look like a miracle, then there are others who were saved by someone and they admitted they did not even fight to be alive.
What is it that encourages one man to fight against all odds and the other to just give up? Why so many times the thoughts of families boost one's morale to fight. Muscles also reach a fatigue level then what is it that keeps them going? Is it just BRAIN or there is a SOUL / MIND too, carrying our weights which connects to other souls (souls of people we love) in such a strange way that despite physical distance and actual encouragements one gets strength to fight.
Only if we could find the connection........
"Religion deals with the truths of the metaphysical world, just as chemistry and the other natural sciences deal with the truth of the physical world. The book one must read to learn chemistry is the book of (external) nature. The book from which to learn religion is your own mind and heart. The sage is often ignorant of physical science, because he reads the wrong book - the book within and the scientist is too often is ignorant of religion, because he, too, reads the wrong book - the book without".
Such an intelligent choice of words. This sometimes leads me to wonder is there really a science? i question science because the so called scientists (who study science) renounce spirituality, whereas spirituality always co existed with science. My feeble mind can only think of science as the laws of nature created by the supreme to keep us bound in some limits so that we can not create havoc in the most beautiful of his creations. Something similar to what happens to Neo in the Matrix, he was bound by laws which actually never existed but when he realizes himself he could do whatever he wanted. Matrix itself was a fancy rip-off of the holy Geeta (compilation of words spoken by Lord Krishna in the battlefield).The point is of self realization. Is it so that once you have realization you will know the begining of it all. The begining of time-the begining of god. What would it lead to?.. heaven or is it just a human imagination.
There are many studies trying to find a relation indirectly like a study that was carried out on more than 20,000 people and it was acertained that lonely, sad, socially less active and less loved people had comparatively shorter lifespan. Here comes my question isn't it that medical science tells us that logevity of life depends on genes, DNA and on cellular level, so how come these things in the study mentioned above ..reached the genes. To support my opinion i have one more question.
How do such human experiences as job satisfaction, happiness, and meditation get into the cells? There is a physiology of loving and caring, ranging from embarrassing facial blush to palpitations, sweating and stammering. Feelings of love generate physical events.It may seem a distant transition from being in love in one's teens to being a confidant or a supportive spouse later in life, but physiologic changes are involved on both ends of the spectrum. These changes are not trivial. They can make the difference between life and death. There are instances of people who really fought for their life and came out alive out of seemingly impossible situations which may look like a miracle, then there are others who were saved by someone and they admitted they did not even fight to be alive.
What is it that encourages one man to fight against all odds and the other to just give up? Why so many times the thoughts of families boost one's morale to fight. Muscles also reach a fatigue level then what is it that keeps them going? Is it just BRAIN or there is a SOUL / MIND too, carrying our weights which connects to other souls (souls of people we love) in such a strange way that despite physical distance and actual encouragements one gets strength to fight.
Only if we could find the connection........
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